We, as humans, are bound to repeat our mistakes and face the same consequences. This is because when we face stressful situations, we retreat into a comfort zone that we create as toddlers. It is in this comfort zone that we have stored certain habits of emotion regulation.
According to the neuroscientist Daniel Levitin, this happens because even though our lives have changed dramatically as we descended into adulthood our brains have still been left a step or two behind.
The most important thing is not to be too hard on yourself for committing these mistakes. They are force of habit and there are some steps that you can take to stop yourselves from making the same mistakes again.
Try to identify what mistakes you are committing on a consistent basis. It could be spending too much money, overeating, anger management issues, smoking or drinking way too much, etc.
Then you need to figure out what sort of harm or consequences the mistakes are bringing you. Is it an emotional, mental, or physical damage and to what level. Do some self-reflection and find out how the mistakes are hurting you and how you feel when you go through all that.
You then start developing a better alternative for your bad actions. So if you overeat or smoke to calm yourself down during stress then you should practice some meditation or mindfulness.
Since mistakes are made out of habit and habit is hard to break it may take some time for you to come out of it, but it does not mean you have to stop trying.
Habits can be tough to break but not impossible. With a couple of sessions of coaching you will be on your way to a healthier life. So come on over to Life Matters Coaching and take advantage of one of our life coaching packages.Try each of the above to bring a positive change and you will see yourself progressing.