After reading this from Marc and Angel I immediately knew that I needed to share with commentary. It resonates greatly with my clients and I myself have felt some of these things from time to time. The fact is, everyone does. We all look back and look ahead and would like to avoid certain things. What is so great about these choices, is that we can live in the now, let go and move forward with this list in our back pocket.
So, here are 10 choices that will absolutely lead to regret…continue reading and find out how to avoid them.
WEARING A MASK
Do you show the world around you who you really are? If you show the world a mask, someday there will be nothing beneath it. When you spend too much time concentrating on everyone else’s perception of you, or who you think everyone else wants you to be, eventually you will forget who you really are. People that are true, that are in your life are interested in you. Not who you think they want you to be or what you think they want from you.
ALLOWING OTHERS TO CREATE YOU
One of the greatest challenges in life is discovering who you are; the second greatest is being happy with what you find. Your decision to stay true to your own goals and dreams is the core. Do you have people who disagree with you? Well good. It means you are standing your ground and walking your own path. Sometimes you will do things considered nutty by others, and I say SO WHAT? This is your path, not theirs. The only person that needs to understand your path, is you!
KEEPING NEGATIVE COMPANY
How many times can you count the times that you allowed someone to put their crappy mood on you? It is a waste of time letting someone who has a bad attitude hand it over to you. You do not need to let them get to you. You are in control of you, not them. They cannot pull the trigger if you do not hand them the gun. When you remember that keeping the company of negative people is a choice, instead of an obligation, you free yourself to keep the company of compassion instead of anger, generosity instead of greed, and patience instead of anxiety.
Now it is highly possible you work with someone who is like this. So it may seem you do not have a choice to spend time with them. Well, in one sense yes that would be true…but read above…if you do not hand them the gun, there is no trigger to pull, right? Just because they are like that, does not mean you have to be.
BEING SELFISH & EGOTISTICAL
Think. Now think again. Think really hard. Have you been egotistical? Have you been selfish? I am not talking about the good kind of selfish, as in, placing yourself first. I am referring to you thinking that you are possibly better than anyone else?
A life filled with loving deeds and good character is the best tombstone. Those who you inspired and shared your love with will remember how you made them feel long after your time has expired. What you have done for yourself dies with you; what you have done for others remains in the world.
AVOIDING CHANGE & GROWTH
If you want to know your past look into your present conditions. If you want to know your future look into your present actions. You must let go of the old to make way for the new; the old way is gone, never to come back. If you acknowledge this right now and take steps to address it, you will position yourself for lasting success.
Growing and changing can be one of the most difficult undertakings. Can it be exhausting? Yes. Can it be emotional? Yes. On the other hand, the rewards you gain, the movement that you experience, and the peace you obtain make it all worth it. Now you have to ask yourself…are you worth it?
There are no failures, just results. Do you believe that? Even if things unfold do not unfold the way you expected, do not be disheartened or give up. Learn what you can and move on. The one who continues to advance one step at a time will win in the end. The battle is always won far away and long before the final victory. It is a process that occurs with small steps, decisions, and actions that gradually build upon each other and eventually lead to that amazing moment…that moment where you can shout “I DID IT”.
Avoiding this is an absolute must! For starters it is exhausting and there is a little gain if any. Life needs to be touched, not strangled. Sometimes you have to relax and let life happen without obsessive worry and micromanagement. Ask yourself, am I really succeeding and making my life better by doing this? What about the people around me? Learn to let go a little before you squeeze too tight. Take a deep breath. When the dust settles you can once again see your path and continue to take the next steps forward. You do not have to know exactly where you are going to be headed. Everything in life is in perfect order whether you understand it yet or not. It just takes some time to connect all the dots.
SETTLING FOR LESS
These days it is hard-pressed to find someone who does not settle for less than they deserve. We worry that nothing better is going to come along. We do this with our careers, opportunities, and with our love life. Be strong enough to let go and wise enough to wait for what you deserve. Sure, sometimes you have to get knocked down lower than you have ever been to stand up taller than you ever were before. Sometimes your eyes need to be washed with your tears so you can see the possibilities in front of you with a clearer vision again.
When you sell it, you are actually passing up opportunities that are worthy of you. When we react to fear, we are not seeing ourselves or thinking about what we need but acting from a place of want instead. Then we become blind to what we wanted in the first place. When you settle you will never get what you want…and need!
Have you ever read “Oh, The Places You’ll Go” By Dr. Suess”? I have read it many times. It is actually a book that I often recommend to my clients. One of the parts of the book is called The Waiting Place. Everyone is just waiting there, waiting for different things. Do you find yourself endlessly waiting? Waiting for tomorrow? Waiting for the phone to ring? Waiting for life to change? The trouble is you think that waiting is the answer. It is not. Doing it. Taking action is. We do not have an endless amount of time to accomplish what we want to. We do not know what is around the corner. What are you waiting for? What is wrong with now? You will never be younger than you are right now. Waiting is non-productive. It is frustrating and you are giving up your control to what? To waiting?
BEING LAZY & WISHY-WASHY
The world does not owe you anything. No one does. You do owe yourself something. You are here. You are living. You are wanting. You are dreaming. So stop that and start doing. Develop a backbone, not a wishbone! Get out there and start. Take off the kid gloves. I never heard anyone say that they are getting the most out of life by doing nothing.
Take full responsibility for your life. Take control. You are important and you are needed. It is too late to sit around and wait for somebody to do something someday. Someday is now; the somebody the world needs is YOU!